PARENTING

A REVIEW ON: PARENTAL ISSUES, CHILD BEHAVIOUR, AND EFFECTS ON CHILDS MENTAL HEALTH

 “ My child is weak in studies, he is not studying at all , he won’t listen to us , he misbehaves with us, he even beat us, he is not getting good grades, he used to have good grades earlier now suddenly he stared getting such low grades, he always gets complaints from his school, he never talks properly , always angry , he has started abusing us , he goes to play with other peers and end up beating and having fight , I always gets this complaint that my child never participates in class and is often quiet, I am worried about his future he is not studying at all , he is always on phone and laptop.” There are many such problems which parents have from their children.

Parents think that they have given birth to the children and provide them with all the necessary things and their duty is done. A Childs development depends on following factors:

üGive your child your time.

üKeep the home environment neat and healthy.

üShow interest in your talks.

üPlay with them.

üHelp them in their homework.

üTake them out on weekends as well as on holidays.

üTalk to them patiently when they are misbehaving.

üEncourage them in their accomplishment.

üPunish them if they do something wrong.

üSpouses should look after that they won’t start fighting in front of their children.

üEach parent plays a specific role in their child’s development. Children seek their role models in their parents, so its parents duty to inspire them with their actions and work.

üParents should make sure that their children should not spend much time on laptops and cell phones. Their time should be fixed for using these gadgets for not more than an hour.

üParents should understand that the time has changed now children have to be looked after with special care. They cannot compare their time with today's time.

Parents have so many problems with their children can they tell why is it happening? Every child is born in different family and in different family backgrounds. A child behavior is learnt from the family how his surroundings are, how he is treated by his family members all this reflects a child’s growth. We have seen the case of misbehaved children and they are always associated with their parent’s negligence. Either the spouse unhealthy relationship affects the child or lack of time given by their parents to them.  Today both the parents are working and after coming home too they don’t have clue of their children. As a result they get into bad company or habits. Some parents don’t realise the way of talking with their children.  Everyone needs to be treated with respect, even if it is elder or younger person.

Children are like seeds it depends on you how you mould them and nurture them into beautiful lotus flowers. So always makes sure what you are doing in front of your children. If you will handle them with love and care they will bloom into beautiful flowers.