GRATITUDE

 Appreciation can change a day,

even change a life

willingness to put it into words

is all that is necessary. - Margaret Cousions

Gratitude is the word which comes from your heart when you feel grateful towards the other. If you want to say something never conceal your words which are confined in your heart. Be open and express them. It really makes people feel valuable. Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have; you are likely to have even more. Your body and mind will bless you for taking an extra minute to reflect on what you are grateful for-- A friend made you laugh with a text message. You are going on vacation next month. Your dog or cat likes you. Your team made the playoffs. Your family makes you feel needed. When you take a minute to remember all the good things in your life, big or small, it can pay off big time for your health.

 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Gratitude is a stress reliever.

When you are feeling anxious and tired, try counting your blessings. Remembering the positive things in the world around you and in your own life can help boost levels of feel good hormones serotonin and dopamine.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Gratitude is a natural pain reliever.

Those who were more grateful were less likely to report feeling aches and pains. Try it. You have nothing to lose.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Gratitude helps you sleep better.

Have you heard of a gratitude journal? The idea is that you write down a few things you are grateful for every night before going to bed. Who did this for a week said they had more restful nights. The practice helps calm your mind.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Gratitude makes you happier.

When you focus on what you have instead of what you didn’t, you are less likely to be depressed. Gratitude keeps you focused on the present, Instead of worrying what might be.

 

AUTHOR GRATITUDE NOTE

 I bid adieu to this year with gratitude and love for each one of you. This year was full of challenges for me and my family but that too has brought many changes in my life. I started with Psychotalks online services and blog during the pandemic. I know how much love and appreciation you guys have poured. And this is what life is all about. Challenges give you growth and make us more strong and mature.

 People complain about the year being stagnant, for many due to the pandemic, their work has suffered, and that they are unhappy. Why don’t they think the other way round? Be happy that you are safe and protected in your home and with your loved ones. You are peaceful and healthy with good food and shelter. You enjoy being in air conditioners in summers and have blankets to cover in winters. 

When lockdown stared everyone was so happy that they got holidays and are working from home. Each passing day became difficult for people to stay in their homes. Not only they were frustrated mentally but also started having personal issues and fights between couples. Children too are suffering with their studies, time to play and being with peers are affected but somehow they were also attached with their parents. Now they are having all the time of their parents.

Why don’t you end your year with gratitude, instead of cribbing for all the things which did not happen the way you wanted or you had imagined. May be 2021 brings that for you with more happiness.  You end your year with gratitude, love, acceptance, happiness, wisdom and with no negative thoughts and feelings. 2021 will open arms for you with more positive energy. And that is what life is all about. When you close a chapter with happiness and acceptance things will automatically happen to you in your favor.

I feel gratitude towards you all. During pandemic I started my digital journey. Many of you recognized me and loved my work. I started writing my blog which I was not knowing will be appreciated and loved by you all. Hope my digital family grows more in 2021. My motive for helping and serving you all will always be my priority and my soul purpose. Hope in 2021 it will expand with improvement.

So if we see as a whole, the journey of 2020 was not only difficult but also challenging. Each generation was packed with certain type of challenges, but we all have changed and understood and somehow adapted ourselves to the environment. This showed the flexibility we all have to handle our lives. Wasn’t it beautiful we got break from our so called lives in which we were living we were not happy too. We actually got the chance to live the life we used to think. People sayings - 'काश लाइफ ऐसी  होती , काश मेरी ज़िन्दगी  तुम्हारी जैसी होती' are now saying -  ' वही  लाइफ सही थी ' . There is no life now ‘यह कोई ज़िंदगी  है.’ moral – we are never satisfied. Same goes with the wishes too, ' एक इच्छा  पूरी होगी तो दूसरी इच्छा उत्पन होगी  '. This is what life is. We all run for materialistic things and objects to live happily and that will never end.  'जो है उस में खुशी ढूंडो'  - and start loving yourself. When you start living with the satisfaction of what you have instead of what others have and what you don’t have you will never be happy. Make a resolution of thanking life for what you have and see how happy you will be.

 

WISH YOU ALL A VERY HAPPY, HEALTHY AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR.

I THANK YOU 2020 GRATITUDE AND WELCOME 2021 WITH OPEN ARMS. EXCITED TO SEE WHAT YOU ALL HAVE STORED FOR ME.

 

LOVE

RAMA BILLA.

AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR – Attitude Towards Others.

 

Aggression, Frustration, Confusion, Depression, Possession

Dance it off and trust me you going to feel like new you, 
and it will going to take away your pain!

 Aggression is when actions that intentionally inflict harm on others. Human aggression stems from many different factors. Input variable relating to the situation or person influence cognition, affect and arousal, and these internal states plus other factors, such as appraisal and decision mechanism, determine whether and in what form, aggression occurs. Any response made with the intent of harming some person or object.  Anger represents one of the unpleasant or negative emotions that are learnt by the child during the course of his normal growth and development. Whenever an individual’s freedom is restrained or something happens against his wishes, he may get irritated or angry.

Aggression is an impulsive, irrational behavior wherein an individual wants to intentionally harm another person either physically or mentally. When the environment is unfavorable, unfriendly, unpleasant people might feel low, sad, frustrated, unhappy, and grumpy and further this might lead to aggression.

 CAUSES

Ø   Frustration
Ø   Physical weakness or bodily restraints.
Ø   Unfulfilment of the needs.
Ø   Any interference with the movement of the children.
Ø   When one’s self esteem is hurt.
Ø   Illness
Ø   Hunger
Ø   Constant fault finding
Ø   Blocking of activities already in progress.
Ø   Interference or attack on the wishes, plans, desires, and purpose.
Ø   Fatigue and restlessness.
Ø   When the goal is too high to achieve.
Ø   Exposure to media violence – movies , news , television or video games
Ø   Bullying
Ø   Workplace politics/ abusive supervisor

 WHY AGGRESSION HAPPENS?

Aggression happens because people have this strong desire to vent out those feelings. They think that by releasing those emotions they will feel better, so either they hit or beat people or say hurtful things to make others feel low.

 PREVENTION AND CONTROL OF AGGRESSION

 In most societies throughout the world, punishment - is a major technique for reducing aggression. People who engage in such behavior receive large fines, are put in prison, but in some locations, extreme cases of violence, such as murder may result in capital punishment – legal execution of the convicted criminals.

 Self regulation is our capacity to regulate many aspects of our behavior.Including aggression. For e.g. living together in human society often requires restraining aggressive behavior. Lashing out at others in response to every provocation is definitely not adaptive and can greatly disrupt social life. For this reason, it is clear that we possess effective internal mechanisms for restraining anger and overt aggression. One way in which individuals self regulate their behavior so as to avoid aggression involves thinking prosocial thoughts – thinking about helping others and caring for them. One effective means of reducing human aggression- perhaps an effective one- is strengthen the internal mechanisms that usually operate to control such behavior.

 Forgiveness is giving up the desire to punish someone who has hurt us and seeking, instead to act in kind, helpful ways towards them – may be highly beneficial in many ways including the reduction of subsequent aggression.  Benefits of forgiveness are stronger for relationships to which individuals are strongly committed than for ones to which they are less committed. The closer we are to someone who offends us, the more beneficial it is to forgive them.

 WHY DO SO MANY SOCIETIES PUNISH AGGRESSIVE ACTS?

ü    Individuals who engage acts of aggression viewed as be inappropriate in their societies deserved to be punished.

ü    Reason for punishing people who commit aggressive actions is to deter them from engaging in such behavior in the future.

 Is aggression a mental illness?

It is not. However, aggression often results in behavioral issues. Aggression can co- exists with mental illness. Over time, stress from untreated intense aggression can cause a lot of wear and tear on someone, psychologically and physically. Somebody could be more aggressive or calm depending upon his genes also; it can be caused by many different aspect of the psychic of the person besides being a problem mentally.

 It is an emotionally influenced response to a situation. It is a function of limbic system and is a response to real or imagined threats of the mind and environment. It is mainly regulated by amygdale function as aggression is an outward showing of increased amygdaloidal activity and lessening of activity in the prefrontal cortex, involved with facilities of reasoning and decision making.

  Does your child get angry?

Everything that’s violent is aggressive, but everything that’s aggressive might not be violent. Violent media has a long lasting impact on all minds, hence it increases aggression. Children exposed to violent games, serials, movies grow up with a lot of aggression. Young kids show their aggression in the form of hitting, biting, and screaming. If these kids aren’t taken care of and guided well at a younger age, they grow up become even more aggressive and controlling them becomes a problem for their care givers and all those who come in contact with them.

When children feel angry, don’t tell them to be angry it’s not possible for them to stop feel angry.

 Don’t tell them “you are getting angry for small thing”. For them it’s a big thing.

Don’t lose your own calm. It’s not going to help you it’ll only aggravate.

What can you do? Say them - I can see how angry you are or how upset this situation has made you it happens and I am there with you. Make them feel secure. Let the anger pass.