‘I recognize that I have to be in control, but as long as I am, I don’t mind how difficult the task is.’
When you
decide to take control of the situations and act accordingly, is resilience. The
thought processes automatically start working in a manner in which you try to give
all your strength to a particular work. You accept things as challenges in your
life. Constant engagement with electronic devices may disconnect you from your
near ones. You won’t realize that you are working as machine, doing same
things, engaging with the daily hassles. You don’t know what to do and how to
make changes. In tough times, you need to decide your priorities first to work
on those.
Taking control means -
- Quickly turning your attention to what can be done to solve any problem.
- Focusing on the positive actions required rather than how unfair or difficult a situation is.
- Do not wait for others to sort out matters for you.
- Securing the necessary resources to get things right.
- Influencing others around to your way of thinking.
- Being a positive role model.
When I lose control, I usually take a step back. The key is to
gather the thoughts, to self communicate some positive messages. Sometimes
it may also be helpful to literally remove yourself from the situation for a while.
Losing control can have a negative impact on your ability to bounce back. To keep the control, there are some activities to help that are highly effective:
· Taking deep breath, counting to 10, doing some exercise.
· Writing an angry email ,but not sending it.
· If you have tried all this, you still can have an odd outburst.
· An odd moment of outburst is actually healthier than bottling things up and brooding on issues for months on end.
· Remember , it is important to move on.
· Apologize whenever necessary- but don’t beat yourself up.
It’s a saying, ‘A
second ago is history, and you can’t change it. You can only think about how to
put things right now.’
