FEAR

“FEAR is a false experience appearing real.”

Fear is a feeling, an emotion, a response to sensing danger. It is type of anxiety that might be either low or extremely high in intensity. Fear is a protective mechanism of the body, which prevents it from doing anything that might cause it harm or be dangerous for it. It may occur in response to a situation, a stimulus that might be there in the present or in anticipation to harm in the future. When individuals experience fear they try to escape, as far as possible from that situation (fight or flight response) or they get so paralyzed by the fear that they just freeze. Fear develops either by being in a fearful situation i.e. personally experiencing the danger/ threat or by observing someone else’s fears.

It may be considered as an intense reaction on the part of the organism involving subjective feelings of unpleasantness, agitation and the desire to run away. It is one of the powerful experiences which to a certain extent contributes to safety and survival of human beings as well as the other organisms. E.g. fear of falling makes us climb the stairs carefully. A person who has been hurt by a dog will generally become hesitant and fearful of dogs. This kind of fear is natural and realistic. Phobia is an irrational fear. If someone finds himself in the state of fear, when the object is not actually presented to him is known as phobia.

Fear responses are inherited but are learnt with the experiences. Attempts should be made to remove fear in the children. They should be provided stimulating environment full of encouragement and incentives. Unnecessary fear if any should be removed by applying the techniques of reconditioning and behavior modification.

Causes of fear

ü    Danger to life

ü    Suddenness

üAnything the lowers self confidence

üThreatening of security

üHorrible faces or stories

üInability to cope with competition

ü    Dreams of dragons

ü    Danger of failure

 

How to overcome it?

Write down what is the uppermost thought in your mind. What is it that is most fearful about? Once you write down you are actually very clear about it. Sit down and take in some deep breaths, inhale to the count of four (very slow) (1.2.3.4) hold on to your breath and as you exhale [(4 breath in. 7 hold on. 8 exhale)] allow yourself to release that fear which is there in your mind.

Look at your life today. And start counting your blessings. Stop living and taking things for granted.Start writing things on the daily basis that you are grateful of. Start living in gratitude.

If still your fears are persistent learn to laugh it out. Look at your achievements. You know what you have within yourself. You know yourself better than anybody else knows you. There might have been times when you won’t really good at doing things. How would you deal with life then? What is it that you did to improve your own self? So if you could do things better earlier, you have the ability even now. Don’t allow these fears to work you up. The worst fears you have in your mind they won’t come true. It is just that we keep on making ourselves anxious and build on that stress and that fear. Allow that to drain us. Everything that we are thinking about is not going to be as bad as we are making it in this time. Things will be amazing. Believe in yourself, believe in your strengths, and work on your strengths. You have so many strengths in you. You are unique. Believe in your own uniqueness. And tell yourself that I am STRONG, BOLD and CONFIDENT. Do this on daily basis in front of the mirror. It will build you up; it will help you to see the good in yourself.

How you will do it? Stand in front of the mirror. 3 things you tell yourself.

Ø    Make a choice of         what you want in        life.

 Tell yourself ‘I       choose to be BOLD,    STRONG AND CONFIDENT’

ØYou tell yourself that you are--

‘I’m BOLD, STRONG AND BEAUTIFUL’

ØYou tell yourself that you feel--

‘I feel BOLD,STRONG AND CONFIDENT.' 

I have faith in myself. I have faith in my abilities. I choose to see the best in myself. That is going to peck you up. Stand in front of mirror and tell yourself ‘I LOVE YOU’.You are actually talking yourself up, you are boosting yourself up. You don’t need the world to do that for you. Just feel yourself up with positive thoughts and you will win over this world. Everything will come back in your command and you will be back on track.